Still Hung Up On Your Ex?
3 Exercises to Break Free
I want to share with you the three exercises that helped me get over my ex.
I was hung up on my ex for 8 years… I know the feeling
I once met a girl, we clicked right away and it was beautiful while it lasted. After the relationship ended, years went by and I was still hung up on her, I discussed it with my therapist and found out that I was hung up on her because she made a positive impact on my life, and from that failed relationship a new me was born.
Here are 3 Exercises to Break Free.
1. The Gratitude List with a Twist:
- Traditional Gratitude List: Write down 5 things you’re grateful for every day. This can be anything, big or small, to shift your focus to the positive aspects of your life.
- The Ex-Twist: Add a section to your list specifically focused on things you’re grateful for about the relationship, even if it ended. This could be things you learned about yourself, experiences you shared, or personal growth you achieved.
Gratitude rewires our brains to focus on the positive. By acknowledging the good things your ex brought into your life, you can begin to detach from the relationship with a sense of appreciation rather than resentment.
2. The “Letting Go” Letter (Never Sent):
- Write a Letter to Your Ex (use pen and paper): Pour your heart out. Express your emotions, your hurt, your anger (if you have it). Don’t hold back, but be honest and authentic.
- The Crucial Part – Don’t Send It!
Writing this letter allows you to process your emotions in a safe space. By getting everything out on paper, you can begin to let go and move forward. This is a cathartic exercise, and the act of writing is very therapeutic.
3. The “Future You” Visualization:
- Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Imagine yourself a year from now.
- Visualize yourself happy, fulfilled, and thriving. What does your life look like?
- Focus on the positive emotions associated with this future version of yourself.
Visualization is a powerful tool for rewiring you brains and setting intentions. By picturing a happy future without your ex, you start to believe it’s possible and guide yourself in that direction.
Bonus Tip:
- Focus on Self-Care: Prioritize activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Spend time with supportive friends and family, pursue hobbies you enjoy, and take care of your physical health. Taking care of yourself sends a message that you are worthy of love and happiness.
Remember, healing takes time. Be patient with yourself, and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.